"Hi Friends,
Not sure how to start this, as so stressed and struggling with the fact that I won’t see my mother again. Ever!
On 14th July 2011, (6 weeks Ago) I was sitting at home watching Sky News when saw a newsflash and interview reporting a huge fire in Glasgow. Over 80 people had been trapped in the 7 high block of flats.
I did not realise that the fire was in my mother’s block of flats at first. And then, within an hour, there was a further update from fireman saying that they had found a body inside a flat on the 5th floor at my mother’s address.
Oh my god, I thought, my mum lives in that block of flats. And also on the 5th floor.
I rang the police in Glasgow, and explained that I was watching news and concerned that mum lived on same floor as where fire was coming from. And when the news said that human remains were found.
After 2 to 3 hours, i got a call back saying that the body was found in Flat 5/1 which was my mother’s flat. I knew there and then it was mother, as she lived alone and never had anyone visiting her.
I quickly rang a friend to borrow some cash and get to Glasgow from Blackpool asap. As I had to see it for myself and get in touch with my sister.
It’s now been over three weeks and I have never wanted a drink so bad. To block out the pain. But I have managed to get through that stage and stayed strong for my young sister.
It was only yesterday that we managed to get a death certificate due to police and fire investigations going on.
I have just booked the funeral etc and never thought I could cope with it. But, as long I stayed away from that drink I knew I would manage, and have managed OK.
Why am I writing this on Wired In, when it hurts so much to write this?
Answer: To show that anyone struggling with anything major in their life, thinking a drink will help and that you can’t cope without that drink. You can!
I will never see my mum again, and have given DNA to police and gone through reading so many dreadful reports in the press and watching the news and media saying so much about the fire in my mothers flat. And it was so hard the last three weeks with being up and down to Glasgow for updates, to get my mum’s body released to me and get the funeral arranged.
I am back up to Glasgow on Tuesday for my mum’s funeral on Wednesday and hope it goes without too much upset.
So, my message is that if you are struggling and think you need that drink, please think again. As I know how much I want to block out that my mother was killed in a house fire. But there would have been no big brother there for my little sister. And nobody able to deal with funeral and giving DNA to police to identify my mother.
I know that the bottle may have helped short term. But I dont think I would have had the strength to go through another detox. As I loved alcohol so much, one drink would have not been enough and then going through another road to recovery would have been too much for me.
I would have drank myself to death this time, as last time I was given 6-12 months life expectancy. I am very lucky to be here with over 6 years sobriety. And my mother would have not wanted that.
So you don’t need that drink.
No matter how hard your day is.
R.I.P. Mum"

– InsogueAresse

"I'm currently 14(nearly) and have been constantly bullied for nearly 2 years. It all started when I went to secondary school. The first month or so were ok, I had my best friend, made a couple of new friends everything was going fine, until a group of boys in my year group started to pick on me because I had braces and talked with a lisp, they made fun of my voice, shouted abuse at me whenever I tried to respond and threw food and hard sweets at me(which left me a painful lump on my head). I'm generally a shy person and don't talk much, but my best friends(or former best friends) are really confident, outgoing and aren't afraid to speak their mind, so they started to become popular and make other friends who automatically didn't like me and thought I was a shy wierdo and gradually more and more people started to judge me as a freak and dislike me. My parents are from a different country so my name isn't a common one, and that has been one of the major targets when people pick on me. I am SICK of people walking past me, or sitting next to me, saying my name in a wierd/funny voice and talking to me as if I was a 5 year old!!!!!!!! When I had an account on MSN, people from school used to post abuse too(cyberbullying). People have also called me fat and ugly because i have large hips and thighs. I started to self harm myself last year, slitting my wrists with sewing scissors and deliberately sticking a toothbrush down my throat and throwing up out of depression and not wanting to go to school. I even have problems with some older people, saying they knew me from when I was like 7 years old at primary school and they make fun of me(as usual). When I accidentally left my school planner in a classroom, I went to get it back at reception and found it broken, ruined and graffitied with the most threatening insults, such as "dirty fat slut, go back to your own country" By the start of this school year, the bullying had started again(even though my head of year last year had spoken to some of the pupils who were bothering me) and has gotten worse throughout the year. I now have no friends(the only ones I had have now become popular and ditched me) am still getting lots of bullying and abuse and one of my former friends has now started to turn particularly nasty. My parents have spoken to my current head of year, tutor and as many teachers as possible, but nothings changed and the bullies still continue. in short: almost the whole year group and possibly many other students hate my guts and think I'm just a quiet geek who likes classical music and studying and I'm strongly hurt by this because I'm NOT any of those things, just because i'm good at schoolwork doesn't make me a geek, classical music annoys the crap out of me and I can be loud and talkative when I want to, but if i try that in school people just roll their eyes at me, look at me wierdly or whisper abuse. I tried to be friends with these girls who I thought were nice to me, but every time I try to sit with them, talk or hand around with them, they run away as if they think I'm stalking them when i'm just trying to be friends. So at break or luchtime, I just wander round the school alone sick, and sad. I REALLY BADLY wanna get homeschooled but my parents won't let me :(. Is there a way I could easily get taught at home and still do all my G.C.S.E's in future because I am sick of getting uncontrollably abused at school(not just one person but many people targeting me) and I don't want to ruin my education, so I really want to find out if it's possible to be taught at home by someone, and if possible, what's the best option.

Female, 14, U.K"

– Sooxiakal

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